• Perimenopause

    Perimenopause – A Quick Definition

    This is mainly from The Centre for Menstrual Cycle and Ovulation Research at the University of British Columbia. It’s an incredible resource by the way— the most useful I’ve found so far. Perimenopause is the period of time before and for a year after the last menstrual period during which ovarian hormonal patterns, experiences and sociocultural roles change. The average age at which irregular cycles develop is about age 47. In CIS women with regular cycles perimenopause probably begins several years before that. It’s when the ovaries start are making fluctuating amounts of estrogen (often higher than before perimenopause) and lower amounts of progesterone. Like menopause, perimenopause is a normal…

  • Inner Work

    Equanimity

    I’m obsessed with equanimity. It’s an often sought out thing, but a little used word. And it’s the word I want tattooed onto my body because I value equanimity so much. Equanimity is a mental calmness, composure, and evenness of temper, especially in a difficult situation. For much of my life – until I entered therapy when I was 39 – I struggled with finding any bit of peace within myself. I was always in panic mode. Always dealing with low and high levels of anxiety. Always trying to control things outside of myself (impossible and so so so draining) in order to avoid feeling my troubling or scary feelings.…

  • Personal Journey

    If you could give all human beings one virtue which would you choose?

    Tolerance of our differences – without the desire to change others or want them change to be like us.On a personal level – with our families, friends, lovers, and significant others – this would save us a lot of frustration and heartache. Can you imagine never fighting about how to place the toilet paper roll? ;-) And on an international level I think if we were more tolerant we’d avoid so much political strife and greatly improve the living conditions of others (1.44 billion people live in extreme poverty and subsist on an average of US $1.25 or less a day). I think a greater virtue might be empathy (to…

  • Personal Journey

    The Big Tattoo

    It came to pass. It did not come to stay. This statement lives on the right side of my torso. It was beautifully painful to get. People with large tattoos in tender spots know what I’m talking about. The experience – it’s a special kind of high. I got it in the fall of 2011. I was about 18 months into my healing journey. I was still in a place of deep pain, but I was trying new things (like holistic nutrition classes) and reading a lot of Buddhist inspired teachings (like Radical Acceptance: Embracing Your Life With the Heart of a Buddha and When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice…

  • Personal Journey

    Vitality

    The third of my small tattoos is a V for Vitality. It’s on the back of my neck – the nape. I like that word, but I digress.I desire vitality inside and out.  I want to be vibrant in mind, body and spirit. I want to be active and strong. I think this comes from a general desire to age well, to age gracefully, to age with dignity.  And that in part is because my father died of colon cancer when he was 54 and I was 24. He was diagnosed at age 49 and died 5 years later. He went through all kinds of treatments – traditional and experimental.…

  • News & Notes

    November Q & A

    My monthly Q &A thread will go live on Monday November 21st. Patreon supporters contributing $5 and more per month have access to this post. It’s a place to ask your questions. I set aside time that day to respond to questions and I will do my best to answer until the end of the month if the questions keep coming in. Visit my Patreon page to sign up as a Supporter and participate !! I eagerly await your questions !! Seska  

  • Personal Journey

    Goals With Soul 2017

    The Desire Map is a workbook, a guide, a process. It’s a tool to help you get crystal clear on how you want to feel and take action to nourish and embody your Core Desired Feelings in all that you do. For the past few years on around New Year Day I revisit my Core Desired Feelings. I take out my old Desire Map workbooks and personal journals and look back. I reflect on the actions I took and the feelings I felt. Then I look ahead at how I want to feel and the goals (with soul) that I want to attain in the coming year. For me it’s part…

  • Personal Journey

    Intention

    Let me start with a little reflection on decluttering… I started my decluttering in 2011. I think I was ahead of the trend. By a smidge anyway. I had a tonne of boxes to go through because of my separation and move to my solo life apartment. I was depressed and anxious. I wanted to feel better about myself, my stuff and my space. I happened upon the book Magical Housekeeping: Simple Charms and Practical Tips for Creating a Harmonious Home by Tess Whitehurst and used it to clear up my space both physically and emotionally. It might not be the book for everyone, but I learned a lot from that…

  • Personal Journey

    Resilience

    I have four tattoos. Three of which are small. I got them on the same day. They were a part of my healing after the end of my marriage. One of them is the letter R on the inside of my left wrist. It stands for Resilience. Here are few of my favourite quotes about resilience. She stood in the storm, and when the wind did not blow her way, she adjusted her sails. – Elizabeth Edwards If all you can do is crawl, start crawling. – Rumi You drown not by falling in the river, but by staying submerged in it. – Paulo Coehlo

  • Personal Journey

    When you’re down what do you do to feel better?

    The way I feel better is by acknowledging that I feel bad and I don’t try to deny it, fight it or turn it into something different. This technique has had such impact in my life. Likely my most powerful strategy for my mental and physical health. I say physical because as I age I want to mitigate the physical consequences of stress. My body doesn’t bounce back like it used to if I feel muscles tightening in my back, shallow breathing or acid reflux. It’s never too late to address this part of our human experience! Here is what I do: When I feel down I take time to recognize…

  • Inner Work

    Full – Core Desired Feeling

    Over the next few weeks I thought I’d write a little bit about my Core Desired Feelings (CDFs) and how they came about. I decided to start with FULL. The dictionary today defines FULL this way. FULL fo͝ol/ adjective 1. containing or holding as much or as many as possible; having no empty space. “wastebaskets full of rubbish” synonyms: filled, filled up, filled to capacity, filled to the brim, brimming, brimful More 2. not lacking or omitting anything; complete. “fill in your full name below” synonyms: comprehensive, thorough, exhaustive, all-inclusive, all-encompassing, all-embracing, in depth The cool thing about discovering your CDFs and using them to turn inner clarity into outer action…

  • Personal Journey

    Do you live more in the past, present, or future?

    I think at this point in my life I’m focused on the present in ways I wasn’t able to before. I meditate and have a mindfulness practice. This has helped clear away much mental clutter. But that doesn’t mean I don’t think about the past and the present much of the time. I seriously do. ALL THE TIME! I have a nostalgic and romantic streak so I like to think back about the pleasant experiences of childhood – like family picnics and adventures in nature with friends. I like to tap into the excitement and infatuations of adolescence and my early 20s – like discovering interesting pieces of world knowledge…

  • News & Notes

    October Q & A

    My monthly Q &A thread will go live on Monday October 17th. Patreon supporters contributing $5 and more per month have access to this post. It’s a place to ask your questions and I will do my best to answer them through out the day and until the end of the month. Visit my Patreon page to sign up as a Supporter and participate !! I eagerly await your questions !! Seska

  • Body & Wellness

    Dull Dry Damaged Hair

    I’m a fan of YouTube make-up and hair tutorials – especially when it comes to retro looks. My first discovery was Iris J. She was especially active with her uploads from 2007-2010 and I referred to her work for my burlesque styling on the regular. What I liked about her videos besides being amazed by her beautiful long, thick locks was that she was well-spoken, poised and charming. The quality of the video is poor compared to today’s standards, but this was also before the current YouTube age of drama, clickbait and fast cuts. If the content is good and without negativity and gimmicks I’m a fan regardless of video quality.…

  • Body & Wellness

    My Hair Care Routine

    My hair care routine is always evolving based on my lifestyle activities and the refinement of my values. For nearly twenty years I had long dark hair that I dyed to cover up my grey. Now I have short salt and pepper hair. You can read all about that here. My different looks have required different products and tools. What has always remained the same is I have never washed my hair every day. When I Had Long Hair When I had long hair I would wash it every three days. I worked out at the gym almost every day so it got a bit greasy, but I kept it feeling fresh by…

  • News & Notes

    I Joined Patreon

    I’m super excited to announce that I‘ve created a Patreon account! Patreon is an easy to use TRANSPARENT way for fans of my work (old and new) to directly support my work as a blogger and life coach. It gives you the opportunity to fund my ongoing content creation with a monthly subscription amount of your choice (as low as $1/month) and help provide me a sustainable income. A Bit About Me I’ve been documenting and sharing online in one form or another since 1999. The focus of my work today is blogging about simple pleasures and mindful living. I share strategies on how to bring balance to your day-to-day life so you…

  • Simplicity

    Fall Capsule Wardrobe

    My Fall 2016 Capsule wardrobe is complete! Just in time for my start date of September 22nd. I wrote about my preparation in a previous blog post. Now I’m going to write about how I chose my main items as well as my extras. If you are building your own capsule or are just pairing things down, I hope you find my process helpful though the best resources for pairing down your clothing are Spark Joy: An Illustrated Master Class on the Art of Organizing and Tidying Up, Lessons from Madame Chic: 20 Stylish Secrets I Learned While Living in Paris and Dress with Less and Create a Capsule Wardrobe.…

  • Simplicity

    Fall 2016 Capsule Wardrobe – Prep

    I’ve decided to start wearing my Fall 2016 Capsule Wardrobe on the first day of Autumn – September 21st. This means this week is about the preparation. I’ve usually followed the Ten Item Wardrobe from Lessons from Madame Chic: 20 Stylish Secrets I Learned While Living in Paris, but this season I’ve decided to combine it with Courtney Carver’s Project 333 so I can have ten main items (which I have really enjoyed these past two years) and set a limit for my extras (footwear, outerwear, t-shirts and accessories). My Process First step is to make an inventory, refine and purge. I’ve done a few major declutters of my wardrobe…